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学会接受 cerate with the evitable（第1页）
戴尔·卡耐基
DaleCarnegie
ThelateBoothTarkingtonalwayssaid:
"Icouldtakeanythingthatlifecouldforceuonmeexcetonething:blindness。Icouldneverendurethat。
"
Thenoneday，whenhewasalonginhissixties，Tarkingtonglanceddownatthecaretonthefloor。Thecolorswereblurred。Hecouldntseetheattern。Hewenttoasecialist。Helearnedthetragictruth:hewaslosinghissight。Oneeyewasnearlyblind;theotherwouldfollow。Thatwhichhefearedmosthadcomeuonhim。
AndhowdidTarkingtonreacttothis
"worstofalldisasters?
"Didhefeel:
"Thisisit!Thisistheendofmylife?
"No，tohisamazement，hefeltquitegay。Heevencalleduonhishumor。Floating
"secks
"annoyedhim;theywouldswimacrosshiseyesandcutoffhisvision。Yetwhenthelargestoftheseseckswouldswimacrosshissight，hewouldsay:
"Hello!TheresGrandfatheragain!Wonderwherehesgoingonthisfinemorning!
"
Howcouldfateeverconquerasiritlikethat?Theanswerisitcouldnt。Whentotalblindnessclosedin，Tarkingtonsaid:
"IfoundIcouldtakethelossofmyeyesight，justasamancantakeanythingelse。IfIlostallfiveofmysenses，IknowIcouldliveoninsidemymind。Foritisinthemindwesee，andinthemindwelive，whetherweknowitornot。
"
Inthehoeofrestoringhiseyesight，Tarkingtonhadtogothroughmorethantwelveoerationswithinoneyear。Withlocalanaesthetic!Didherailagainstthis?Heknewithadtobedone。Heknewhecouldntescaeit，sotheonlywaytolessenhissufferingwastotakeitwithgrace。Herefusedarivateroomatthehositalandwentintoaward，wherehecouldbewithothereolewhohadtroubles，too。Hetriedtocheerthemu。Andwhenhehadtosubmittoreeatedoerations—fullyconsciousofwhatwasbeingdonetohiseyes—hetriedtorememberhowfortunatehewas。
"Howwonderful!
"hesaid。
"Howwonderful，thatsciencenowhastheskilltooerateonanythingsodelicateasthehumaneye!
"
Theaveragemanwouldhavebeenanervouswreckifhehadhadtoenduremorethantwelveoerationsandblindness。YetTarkingtonsaid，
"Iwouldnotexchangethisexerienceforahaierone。
"Ittaughthimaccetance。Ittaughthimthatnothinglifecouldbringhimwasbeyondhisstrengthtoendure。Ittaughthim，asJohnMiltondiscovered，that
"Itisnotmiserabletobeblind，itisonlymiserablenottobeabletoendureblindness。
"
Ifwerailandkickagainstitandgrowbitter，wewontchangetheinevitable;butwewillchangeourselves。
IoncerefusedtoaccetaninevitablesituationwithwhichIwasconfronted。Ilayedthefoolandrailedagainstit，andrebelled。Iturnedmynightsintohellsofinsomnia。IbroughtuonmyselfeverythingIdidntwant。Finally，afterayearofself-torture，IhadtoaccetwhatIknewfromtheoutsetIcouldntossiblyalter。
IshouldhavecriedoutyearsagowitholdWaltWhitman。
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