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关于建议的定义 a wrd n advice（第1页）

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Websterdefinesadviceasbeing，

"arecommendationwithregardtoacourseofaction。

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Theexression，

"Ineedsomeadvice

"hastobeoneofthemosthorrifyingstatementsintheEnglishlanguage。Whatmakesitremarkablyterrifyingisthattheadvisorisusuallyconfrontedwithitoutoftheblueandwithlittleornowarning。Mydaughterisanexertatthis。LatelyIhavebeenabletoredictwhenshewillcall。ItusuallyhaenswhenIamhavingthetyeofdaywheneverythingseemstobegoingwell。Iamactuallyrelaxedwithfewthingsthathavetobedone。ItisalmostasifIsendoutasignaltoherthatIamreadyforthechallenge。Thecallalwaysbeginswiththeexression，

"Dad

"。Thewordisnotasimortantashowitisstated。Itsoundslikeaquestionbeingaskedbysomeonewhodoesnotwanttobeheard。Inotherwords，itisalittlequieterthanawhiser。IknowsheknowsitisI，becauseshedidthecallingandIamconfidentthatsheknowsthesoundofmyvoice。ItisalmostasifthewordisasignalthatIhadbetterbeready。

WhenmydaughterwassmallIlookedforwardtogivingheradvice。Infact，Isincerelybelievethatshealsoenjoyedit。ForthemostimortantthingaDadcandoisgethischildreadyforlife。NotthatIeverthoughtIwasreadybutatleastIhavebeenabletosurvivemyyears，sofar。SheusedtositrealclosetomeoronmylaandIwouldexlainthemysteriesoflifetoher。Iwouldtellherofmoralsandethicsthatmadelifeasgoodasitcanossiblybe。Yearslater，whenmydaughterhitthewonderfulteenagedyears，shedidntaccetmyadviceasshedidintheast。Infact，sheobviouslydreadedit。However，IgaveittoheranywaybecauseIwantedhertosurviveherteenagedyears。IsurvivedthemsowhyshouldntshelistentomeandtakeintheknowledgethatIhadfromtheexeriencesofmyast。ForyearsshenevercametomeforadvicebutIcontinuedtosubmitit。NowthatIthinkofit，myfatherdidthesame。

Soon，toosoon，sheleftandstartedherownlife。Itwasasthoughoursearationnecessitatedthatshewouldonceagainneed，andseekout，myadvice。Atfirstthiswasagoodthing，inthatIareciatedthefactthatshethoughtmywisdomwasworththetime。AfterawhileIcametotherealizationthatImightnotalwaysberight。Istartedtofearmyownanswerstoherquestions。

Mydaughterisnottheonlyersoninmylifethatasksforadvice。Mywifedoesitinanoddway。Iknowsheknowstheanswertoherquestionbutitisalmostasthoughshewantstocombineminewithhers。SometimeswhenIgiveheradviceshetakesitinandbasicallymakesherowndecisions。Othertimesshegivesmethatoddlookthatasks，

"Whatlanetwereyoubornon?

"EitherwayIdomybest。

Myarentshavestartedtoaskformyadvice。Thiswasverydifficultformetounderstand。MostofmylifemyfatherandmotherweretheonestodirectmeonhowIshouldhandlecertainsituations。Theyweretheoneswhosurvivedtheiryearssothattheycoulddirectmetowardcorrectdecisions。Nowtherolesseemtobereversed。IguessIshouldtakeitasacomlimentbecausethisshiftingofrolesmeansthattheyhavefinallycometotherealizationthatIamcaableofmakingcorrectchoices。Now，ifIcouldonlybelievethissamerealizationandfinallyrelaxinmynewrole。

Myfolksquestionsusuallysurroundtheirrearationforthefinalstagesoftheirlives。Ihatethesesituationsbecause，ifIadmitthattheyaregettingold，IamliterallyresigningmyselftothefactthatIamnotfaroff。IanswertheirquestionsasbestasIcan，rayingthatIamadvisingthemtodotherightthingsbuthowcouldIossiblyknow?Unlikegivingadvicetomydaughter，givingadvicetomyarentsinvolvesmeguessingwhattodowithouttheexerienceofgoingthroughwhattheyareresentlygoingthrough。Iguesstheyaskmebecausetheytrustme，likeIhavealwaystrustedthem。

Iamateacher。Infact，Iamahighschoolteacherwhoworkswithyoungadultswhoareabouttoembarkoncareersthatincludecollege，themilitary，orwork。EverydayIamaskedquestionsconcerninghowtheyshouldorganizefortheirfutures，awayfromalifethatcenteredontheirublicschool。Mosteoledontrealizethatgraduatingfromhighschoolisoneofthelast

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"oursocietyhas。Thisistruebecausetheseyoungchildrenareleavingatimethathadtakenuover75%oftheiryounglives。

So，Iadvisethemastowhatindustrieswillbeimortantwhentheygetoutofcollege;whatmilitaryservicetheyshouldlookinto，inordertoachievewhattheythinktheywanttoachieve。Sometimesjusttotelltheseyoungmenandwomenthatlifeisawonderfulthingandthattheyarefortunatetobeinastageoftheirliveswheretheyareabouttobecomeadults。EverytimetheyleaveIraythatIgavethemgoodadvice。IknowIdidmybest。

SometimeseoleIdontknowaskformyadvice。Thearentsofmystudentsusuallyaskwhattheyshoulddotomaketheirchildsfuturebright。Sometimestheyaskwhattheyshoulddobecausetheirchilddoesntlistenordoesntbelievewhattheyaretellingthem。Iassumetheyaskmebecausetheybelieveateachershouldknowtheanswers。Eitherthatortheylookatmygrayhairandbeardandbelievethatmyagenecessitatesmyabilitytoknow。

ThebasicroblemwithWebstersdefinitionofadviceisthatitdoesnttakeintoaccounttheadvisor。Doestheadvisorunderstandtheroblemandhavetheabilitytohelwithadecision?Intheast，didIgivemydaughter，arents，students，andstrangersthecorrectadvice?

IthinkIllgivemydaughteracallandaskherforsomeadvice!

韦氏字典中“建议”一词的定义如下：“对某种行为提出意见或忠告。”

“我需要些建议”是英语中很令人厌恶的话语之一。之所以这样说，是因为在无任何预兆的情况下，给出建议的人总要面对那些未知的事情。在这方面，我的女儿是专家。最近，我总能预测到她打电话的时间，而且总是在万事如意的情况下电话铃就响起了，就像是我总是向女儿暗示：我已经准备好了！对于这种无法逃避的事，我总是很坦然。“爸爸。”电话总这样开始。其实“爸爸”这个词，并不像它的叫法那么重要。听起来女儿的叫法就像是在问人问题，又不想让别人听到似的。也就是说，她的声音比耳语还要低。我知道，她知道我在听电话，因为电话是她打来的，而且她也听出了我的声音。而“爸爸”这个词好像是我告诉自己最好做好准备的信号。

女儿小的时候，我渴望能给她建议。事实上，她也会很高兴地接受，这一点我深信不疑。让孩子对生活有所准备，是父亲最重要的事情。对此，倒不是我已做好准备，但至少我已在社会上生存这么多年。她过去常常坐在我身旁，或趴在我的膝上，让我给她解释她生活中的困惑。我会给她讲伦理和道德，让生活更有意义。几年后，女儿到了花季年龄，不再像儿时那样接受我的建议了。事实上，看得出来，她对此已有些畏惧。我希望她能平稳地度过花季，所以无论怎样，我还是给了她建议。我非常理解，为何她不接受我的建议和我积累的经验。多年来，她都未曾向我征求过建议，但我还是会给她。现在想想，父亲当年也是这样对我的！

时光如梭，她离开家开始了自己的生活。似乎相隔两处，反而使她再次需要征求我的建议了。首先这很好，从这件事上可以看出，她觉得我的智慧还是能经受住时间考验的。后来，我觉得我有时也犯错。因此，对于她的问题，我开始有些害怕回答了。

在我的一生中，并不只有女儿向我征求意见。妻子总是做事诡秘，她知道如何解决问题，但总是希望我们俩的答案能一致。有时她也接受我的建议，但基本上，还是自己作决定。其他时候，她则神经兮兮地看着我，那种表情似乎在问：“你是哪个星球来的？”不管用哪种方式，我都尽量使她满意。

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