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生活态度最重要 0ne life attitude i irtant（第1页）

拉塞尔康威

RussellConwell

IwasattendingaseminarinSydneyinArilandickedualecturenote。Initwasareflectionon

"Attitude

"。

Letmequotetheanonymouswriter:

"ThelongerIlive，themoreIrealizetheimactofattitudeonlife。Attitude，tome，ismoreimortantthanfact。Itismoreimortantthantheast，thaneducation，thanmoney，thancircumstances，thanfailures，thansuccesses，thanwhatothereolethinkorsayordo。Itismoreimortantthanaearance，intelligenceorskill。Itwillmakeorbreakacomany，achurchorahome。

"Theremarkablethingiswehaveachoiceeverydayregardingtheattitudewewillembraceforthatday。Wecannotchangethefactthateolewillactinacertainway。Wecannotchangetheinevitable。Theonlythingwecandoistolayontheonestringwehave，andthatisourattitude。

"Iamconvincedthatlifeis10ercentwhathaenstomeand90ercenthowIreacttoit。Andsoitiswithyou。Youareinchargeofyourattitude。

"

Thismeansthatnomatterwhathaenstoyou，itishowyoureactorresondtoitthatisimortant。

Youcantcontrolorinfluencecertaineventsinlife—earthquake，sabotage，terroristbombings，beingstruckbylightning，afreaktrafficaccidentandsoon。Butyoucancontrolhowyouthinkandfeelaboutsuchincidents，evenwhenyouaretheunfortunatevictimofanaccident。

Youcanchoosetomoanandgroanaboutyourmisfortune，aboutwhatyouhavelosthysicallyorfinancially。Oryoucanchoosetocountyourblessingsthatyouarestillalive，thatyouhavemostofyourhysicalormentalfaculties。Arolongednegativeattitudewouldmakeyoumiserableandregressivewhereasachangetoaositiveattitudewouldsuryoutothinkofossibilities。

Youcouldbetauntedordiscriminatedagainstifyoulostaleg，armoraneye。Youcanthelsomeinsensitiveeoledoingsuchthings。Ifyoufretoverwhatissaidandwhathasbeenderivedofyou，doesitmakeyouanyhaier，determined，erseveringorresourceful?

Therightattitudetotakeisnottoletinsults，sarcasm，rudeness，ridiculeormockerybotheryou。Whyresondnegativelytosuchbehavioursofothereole?Itdoesntaytostrikebackcontemtuouslyatthem。Ifyoudo，youareshowingthatyouareemotionallyweaker。

Showthatyouareemotionallystronger，thatyoudonothavetotradeinsultswithinsults，thatwhattheysayordodoesnotbotheryouatall。Showthedignitythattheydonothave。

Theainisnotinwhattheinsensitiveeolesayaboutyouordotobelittleyou。Theainisinhowyouinterretandreacttosuchacts。

Veryoften，wenegativelyover-reactto，or

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"toomuchinto，whateolesayordo。Itsacaseofseeingwhatwewanttosee，regardinganissueasbigwhenitcouldreallybeinsignificant。

Evenifeoleinrealityaredownrightinhuman，youcanchoosetoignoretheirbehaviourornotviewitnegativelyatall。Thatisrealselfmastery。

Losingaartofthebodyisnottheendoflife。Itmightbetheendofacareerthatyouweretrainedinandthebeginningofanewcareerbutagain，itmightnot。IfthefamousStehenHawkingcanseakthroughacomutergadget，ifagolfercanstilllaywithametalarm，thenatrainerwholosesbothlegsorarmscanstillfindsomeotherwaystoteach。

Whenyoulosehoe，whenyoudesair，whenyoublameeoleallthetime，whenyoudonotevenwanttotryandersevere，thenyouchoosetomakelifemeaninglessforyourself。

Whatisthevalueofintellect，imagination，education，knowledge，wisdom，exerience，cometenceandtalentifyouadotanegativeattitudeeveryday?

Toexandonwhatthewriterinthechurchleafletsaid，attitudecanmakeorbreakaerson。Eitheryouareinchargeoforyoulosechargeofyourattitude。

四月里，我在悉尼出席一个研讨会时，收到别人给我的一份演讲稿。其中的内容讲的是感悟“态度”。

让我在此借用这位匿名作者的话：

“经历得越多，我就越能意识到态度对生活的影响。相比事实而言，态度对我更为重要。比起经验、教育、金钱、环境，以及他人的看法和言行，态度更为重要。外貌、智力或技能，与态度相比也显得微不足道。态度使一个企业、一种信仰、一个家庭存在或消失。

“值得注意的是，每天我们都可以选择以何种态度去迎接这一天。对于他人的处事方式和必然发生的事，我们都无法改变。我们唯一能做的，就是在我们自己的弦——我们的态度上做文章。

“因为我坚信，那些必然发生而又无法更改的事，只是人生的10％，其他90％则取决于我们如何看待。对于自己的态度，我们一样可以掌控。”

也就是说，不管遇到什么事，最重要的是看我们如何去面对它。

生活中的有些事件，你是无法控制或影响的，如地震、阴谋破坏、恐怖爆炸、遭遇雷击、突发的交通事故，等等。而自己对这些事件的想法和感受，你是可以控制的，即使你是事故的不幸受害者。

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